tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post8847986914300570102..comments2024-02-25T02:44:23.243-08:00Comments on You and Me — and Adult ADHD: If You Think Fear-Based Management Works for You—Think AgainGina Perahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-15574428860404261142016-07-30T15:23:00.517-07:002016-07-30T15:23:00.517-07:00Hi there,
You wrote, "Every day is another c...Hi there,<br /><br />You wrote, "Every day is another chance to disappoint other people."<br /><br />What a tremendously difficult phenomenon to face. I am sorry it's so hard for you.<br /><br />best,<br />gGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-25816435706226741972016-07-27T19:00:08.459-07:002016-07-27T19:00:08.459-07:00Unfortunately, support groups don't help much....Unfortunately, support groups don't help much. There's only so much people can do. We're always 3-steps behind developmentally, and our best isn't enough. Most of us don't have enough money for therapy, and that doesn't help either. I'm sick of being told to get "more organized" or be "more consistant", when I'm doing the best I can. Everyday isAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-66348632616473892652014-12-31T13:44:30.087-08:002014-12-31T13:44:30.087-08:00HI Shoshin,
I'll recommend two books:
1. &qu...HI Shoshin,<br /><br />I'll recommend two books:<br /><br />1. "Is it You, Me, or Adult A.D.D." by yours truly. <br /><br />This book goes far beyond "day-to-day coping" by detailing the success strategies that form the foundation of functioning well with ADHD. <br /><br />2. Taking Charge of Adult A.D.D., by Russell Barkley<br /><br />This book, by the preeminent expert Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-69692509212951525662014-12-31T10:28:09.795-08:002014-12-31T10:28:09.795-08:00Thank you again, Ms. Pera. If you could--& wo...Thank you again, Ms. Pera. If you could--& would, recommend one book...that would help me...meet, organize, & live my daily ADHD-afflicted life, what would that be (I humbly ask-& not one that is dedicated exclusively to describing the syndrome...but one that also lays out day-to-day coping guidance)? Anticipatory thanks, Shoshin (& I am reinstating my long-dormant zazen Shoshinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14870262648402125041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-67058943272700257462014-12-30T16:41:14.969-08:002014-12-30T16:41:14.969-08:00HI Shoshin, and thanks for writing.
You know, you...HI Shoshin, and thanks for writing.<br /><br />You know, yours is a story I hear frequently. The challenge is to keep the momentum going.<br /><br />With the group that I moderate in Palo Alto, the folks who come very month typically enjoy the most sustained progress. So, try to get to that group every month. Just make the commitment. <br /><br />Get to know people there, so they will know when Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-68248185151840922592014-12-30T10:43:46.589-08:002014-12-30T10:43:46.589-08:00Thank you so much for this--& for your Blog, M...Thank you so much for this--& for your Blog, Ms. Pera, which I only today have discovered. <br /><br />I am at my wit's end & had one of those class ADHD "Aha!" moments (followed by the overwhelmingly rush join every ADHD-support group & buy every Adult ADHD book I can find) yesterday when listening to a re-play of an old Kojo Nandi (NPR) program featuring Timothy DeneviShoshinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14870262648402125041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-86918731225906012912013-07-18T10:23:46.137-07:002013-07-18T10:23:46.137-07:00It's sad that the pace of our lives can be so ...It's sad that the pace of our lives can be so intense what with all the things that vie for our attention. Advocating a relaxing walk as part of a balanced mind-body is spot on. I truly enjoy my walks and secretly like them better without my pwADHD. We usually do well but often my partner wants to get into her anxiety frame of mind which is counterproductive to the relaxation aspect of the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-82437069598267838792013-06-18T15:08:30.713-07:002013-06-18T15:08:30.713-07:00Hi PD,
The best advice I can give to you is to ke...Hi PD,<br /><br />The best advice I can give to you is to keep learning about ADHD and why these things might happen. You can start by reading all of the past posts on this blog.<br /><br />best,<br />gGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-30178180131861894892013-06-18T15:06:58.421-07:002013-06-18T15:06:58.421-07:00Great point. What is that saying - Fear Sells! Bu...Great point. What is that saying - Fear Sells! But we don't have to buy it.<br /><br />tx<br />gGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-56498370533272577472013-06-18T15:06:02.811-07:002013-06-18T15:06:02.811-07:00Hi,
Yes, exercise, meditation, even a leisurely w...Hi,<br /><br />Yes, exercise, meditation, even a leisurely walk with a friend—all those things can help to calm the reactive brain. <br /><br />For some people, stimulant medication, too, helps to "strengthen" the prefrontal cortex and its connections, the better to "talk down" an irrational limbic system.<br /><br />thanks for your comment,<br />g<br /><br />Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-31144607085805804782013-06-18T12:42:24.638-07:002013-06-18T12:42:24.638-07:00Gina,
Thank you for explaining your absence and I ...Gina,<br />Thank you for explaining your absence and I look forward to that book. I'm intrigued because of its subject matter.<br />I have found that aerobic physical exercise for at least 30 mins a day can help. If you cant schedule it then, I've heard that meditation has helped people. Meditation is simply sitting and consciously allowing your mind to wipe away thoughts. It's hard Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-32541021245163200052013-06-17T23:18:10.590-07:002013-06-17T23:18:10.590-07:00Interestingly, I live in Johannesburg, South Afric...Interestingly, I live in Johannesburg, South Africa, the crime capital. But it's not just crime that's given prominence in society, it's status and labels, and health and life insurance ('What will your family do when you die?' etc) and I've known that it's wrong but not why. I don't lie awake fearing criminals, though I live alone, I lie awake wondering how to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-81735096361788779692013-06-16T20:55:04.885-07:002013-06-16T20:55:04.885-07:00I promise I will read many times your article. I n...I promise I will read many times your article. I need to continue understanding and grasping ADHD problem in an adult. I live in South America. I heard about ADHD for 1st time few months ago. when my loving and incredible boyfriend of 34 years old. broke me up. He broke our serious relationship in its best moment. all seemed be so happy and doing in good way. I am an Spanish speaker. I have been Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com