tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post8002376120487739224..comments2024-02-25T02:44:23.243-08:00Comments on You and Me — and Adult ADHD: Is It "Miscommunication"—or Could It Be Adult ADHD?Gina Perahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-66381760141753898552013-09-12T02:58:42.485-07:002013-09-12T02:58:42.485-07:00This explains a lot - I knew my husband (recently ...This explains a lot - I knew my husband (recently diagnosed with ADHD and newly medicated) often remarks, when I ask or state something, for me to repeat it. Then he says, "You know what I heard?" and will say something that sounds as if he heard my words underwater! I thought he had hearing problems, now I'm convinced it's the ADHD. Not easy to live with this.<br />SherryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-7304648133943496832012-11-24T10:15:50.337-08:002012-11-24T10:15:50.337-08:00Hey Scott,
Yes, watch for those late-night discus...Hey Scott,<br /><br />Yes, watch for those late-night discussions. Sometimes that's an unconscious way to "wind up" the brain so the person with ADHD can focus on going to sleep.<br /><br />Sometimes, a low dose of stimulant at bedtime can better fulfill that need and forestall unnecessary arguments.<br /><br />And yes, I figured out even before my husband's diagnosis that Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-47512281562420044982012-11-24T10:13:31.055-08:002012-11-24T10:13:31.055-08:00Hey Scott,
I wonder if your trouble "hearing...Hey Scott,<br /><br />I wonder if your trouble "hearing" led your mom to bring you to the doc's office. In other words, the "infection" wasn't the problem; it was ADHD-related auditory issues. I bet this happens to lots of kids.<br /><br />I don't have any data, but it also seems that kids with ADHD are more allergy prone. So, you might actually have had more ear Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-43869202101636141072012-11-24T07:51:56.157-08:002012-11-24T07:51:56.157-08:00***looks like I went past the character limit so t...***looks like I went past the character limit so this is the rest of the post***<br /><br /><br />I can't remember where I read this (maybe your book Gina)but there was some link with ADHD and ear infections/hearing issues during youth. At least I think I read that....<br />I had tubes in my ears three different times. My mom kept the writeups the doctor's did on my yearly visits. The oneScotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170009544291965018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-4373142659475804842012-11-24T07:51:11.377-08:002012-11-24T07:51:11.377-08:00Now I understand more...
I have been looking for t...Now I understand more...<br />I have been looking for this exact explanation of why this happens to me. I'm 40 and just found out 4 months ago about the ADHD. This particular impairment has caused me much distress and I'm glad to know more about it. Among other things it had a lot to do with why my wife and I split 4 years ago.<br /><br />Now it's my girlfriend and I....she also has Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170009544291965018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-12730971121193537402012-04-09T22:43:00.604-07:002012-04-09T22:43:00.604-07:00Thank you for alerting me to the fact that the NID...Thank you for alerting me to the fact that the NID has taken down the page on Auditory Processing Disorder. <br /><br />Because the NID is part of the National Institutes of Health, I find it strange that there is no longer an entry on APD. Maybe NIH has decided APD is no longer a separate condition, independent of ADHD. As I have theorized.Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-9630824471251598292012-04-09T15:47:27.275-07:002012-04-09T15:47:27.275-07:00your link for the National Institute on Deafness ...your link for the National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders, doesn't work anymoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-43679053986490658512012-01-23T23:35:41.385-08:002012-01-23T23:35:41.385-08:00Hi Mo,
I'm glad you liked this piece. It'...Hi Mo,<br /><br />I'm glad you liked this piece. It's one that is close to my heart, as I see people who resemble your self-description in our local Adult ADHD group.<br /><br />I always try to balance the participation in the group, so that the "quick thinkers" don't dominate the discussion and others get a chance. But I've also learn not to surprise people! It bringsGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-1784242852282199182012-01-23T14:24:06.867-08:002012-01-23T14:24:06.867-08:00I can really relate to this post. I've been di...I can really relate to this post. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since 5th grade. I'm 24 now. This is probably the source of about half of my stress surrounding my ADHD. I've always been shy, though I've gotten better, and always had a small number of friends. I always want to pause to think for longer to answer questions, but because it would make an awkward silence in the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-86762680464956696042011-01-12T20:23:47.946-08:002011-01-12T20:23:47.946-08:00Thanks for visiting, CJ. The comments throughou...Thanks for visiting, CJ. The comments throughout the blog are a wealth of information and shared experience.<br /><br />GinaGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-55523934372921129682011-01-09T05:43:08.465-08:002011-01-09T05:43:08.465-08:00Yay! This site couldn't have come at a better ...Yay! This site couldn't have come at a better time. I've recently been diagnosed with adhd and was convinced my partner of 13yrs had it too, after coming to the conclusion like attracts like, because communication has always been an issue, especially when it comes to hearing what he's misinterpreted as being the issue, there's always some other thing that has to be seen to (our Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-33190119122939514932010-11-23T23:15:14.495-08:002010-11-23T23:15:14.495-08:00Wow...this blog has truly given me hope. My husban...Wow...this blog has truly given me hope. My husband and I cannot communicate. I mean that sincerely. Over the past few years, our communication has gone from bad to worse, and I was convinced he has some hearing loss (he was diagnosed with a slight amount when he left the Navy 15 yrs ago). But, he denies it, although all of us notice how he talks louder than anyone else, claps louder (and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-45952768918573239412010-08-10T17:20:06.305-07:002010-08-10T17:20:06.305-07:00This article was very helpful.This article was very helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-51167950755441135112010-07-06T15:53:46.499-07:002010-07-06T15:53:46.499-07:00AN UPDATE:
The confusion between auditory-process...AN UPDATE:<br /><br />The confusion between auditory-processing disorder, or APD, (often diagnosed in children with ADHD) and ADHD has long been a pet peeve of mine.<br /><br />Many people simply do not realize how even very educated specialists have immense blind spots. And, to me, APD vs. ADHD seemed a gaping blind spot.<br /><br />I carefully studied all the research. And, even though I don&#Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663852607629403279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-69619283044928339392010-06-10T04:42:08.170-07:002010-06-10T04:42:08.170-07:00I just can say WOW, all this was so new for me. I ...I just can say WOW, all this was so new for me. I think a few days after we started dating my Boyfrind told me that he "HAD" ADHD when he was a kid, but the way how he is akting sometimes made me wonder, so i did some research and i found a lot about ADHD and Adulds, and now everything makes so much sense to me. I tried so hard to understand him, but he got me frustraded so many times. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-22546358830523225822010-04-17T22:04:06.591-07:002010-04-17T22:04:06.591-07:00Anonymous (2)
I'm sorry to hear that your wif...Anonymous (2)<br /><br />I'm sorry to hear that your wife wouldn't support you in being evaluated for ADHD. I'm constantly amazed by the people who refuse to consider new ideas, even if they could vastly improve their lives.<br /><br />Maybe your wife was depressed and not thinking clearly. Maybe she was just weary from riding the ADHD Roller Coaster. ;-) Maybe she just wasn't Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-39901886985570522742010-04-17T21:56:28.071-07:002010-04-17T21:56:28.071-07:00Anonymous(1) -- I'm glad to hear you've fo...Anonymous(1) -- I'm glad to hear you've found your second wind. Sometimes the "light at the end of the tunnel" is learning about ADHD and how it can manifest in adults.<br /><br />.When you can finally stop tying yourself in knots through fruitless attempts to "manage the unmanageable," when you finally have solid answers, it can make all the difference in the world. Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-3295007475250594432010-04-17T15:51:22.013-07:002010-04-17T15:51:22.013-07:00I wish I had found this long ago! I was diagnosed ...I wish I had found this long ago! I was diagnosed with ADD after my wife left me and I was seeing a marriage councilor. The councilor saw many signs and asked me to get screened for ADD. My wife refused to go. Many issues I have discovered were affected by my ADD. I always am saying what but my hearing tests fine. She would want to talk about our relationship. I wanted to help it, but came up Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-70762496802145595112009-12-28T19:08:46.772-08:002009-12-28T19:08:46.772-08:00I came across your blog last week while trying to ...I came across your blog last week while trying to find help with coping with my boyfriend's ADHD. It has helped so much already and I'm learning more and more everyday how to renew my patience, which I thought had been completely exhausted long ago. I'm still struggling every day, and afraid of how to get him help, but your entries are helping me start walking down that path. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-2990557794035253832009-11-12T17:37:07.573-08:002009-11-12T17:37:07.573-08:00Sounds like YOU have a sense of humor, too, two bi...Sounds like YOU have a sense of humor, too, two bits. :-)<br /><br />Somehow I think "trying harder" to listen is like "trying harder" to see -- more easily suggested than done. :-)<br /><br />gGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-8136116077290062762009-11-05T12:10:40.836-08:002009-11-05T12:10:40.836-08:00I was diagnosed with ADD at 17, but got by without...I was diagnosed with ADD at 17, but got by without medication. I had my hearing tested in college because I was contantly misunderstanding my friends, but my hearing was fine. I had it tested again 10 years later because my husband was so frustrated with me misunderstanding him or flat out hearing gibberish instead of whatever he was trying to say. My hearing is still fine and we have been two bitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453438795489440272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-22703429887870446022009-10-29T09:45:00.070-07:002009-10-29T09:45:00.070-07:00Thanks to everyone for your comments. I learn so m...Thanks to everyone for your comments. I learn so much from you, and appreciate the interchange.<br /><br />GinaGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-68117665201409143832009-10-13T08:30:16.924-07:002009-10-13T08:30:16.924-07:00Your comment"I am exhausted!" I'm an...Your comment"I am exhausted!" I'm an ADD husband. When I read that, a while back, and when my wife got home from work(she usealy goes to our room and reads before going to sleep), I told her about your comment.<br /><br />I asked her if she could relate to you, and does my rambling way of talking exhaust her. She just looked at me and smiled, and said:"Yep, your learning."Scott Hutsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08454268138477849476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-11236917893575633882009-09-08T10:12:08.960-07:002009-09-08T10:12:08.960-07:00I need to learn more about both of these condition...I need to learn more about both of these conditions. I have a husband and daughter that suffer from both and it is driving me crazy. I am at my wits end. <br />I agree with texting helps make communication much easier. My daughter and I communicate wonderfully but my husband continues to be my biggest challenge. I am exhausted!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-54171945150980979522009-09-07T12:19:11.316-07:002009-09-07T12:19:11.316-07:00Thanks for posting this! My husband actually aske...Thanks for posting this! My husband actually asked me to get my hearing checked. He was convinced that I had soemthing wrong with my hearing or was intentionally ignoring him. Needless to say my hearing is perfect and I certainly never intend to just ignore what he is saying. Texting on our cell phones has helped our communication trememdously. I don't feel as angry and misunderstood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com