tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post5139869100704391594..comments2024-02-25T02:44:23.243-08:00Comments on You and Me — and Adult ADHD: "Our Weekend Without Meds"Gina Perahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-24661995519619506092018-06-10T10:12:33.874-07:002018-06-10T10:12:33.874-07:00I could not figure out how to post my story,
I had...I could not figure out how to post my story,<br />I had made my doctors appointment for early Friday morning, 3 months ago. I am an adult with ADHD. I have not missed a doctors appointment ever, that i can remember, because I know that the person i am without my medication is for no better word, horrid.<br /> That first few sentences i have just wrote took me longer to correct than it would Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-4937755958420838652016-01-25T23:20:13.394-08:002016-01-25T23:20:13.394-08:00I know! It's crazy. I am so sorry you had to e...I know! It's crazy. I am so sorry you had to endure that. I can only imagine the stress...<br /><br />My advice is to use mail-order prescription, if at all possible.<br /><br />Setting up my husband's Rx this way, with a 90-day supply four times a year, has made life so much easier.<br /><br />It's really cruel and unusual punishment, to ask adults with ADHD to wrestle with all this Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-28867138512453164232016-01-25T08:43:59.369-08:002016-01-25T08:43:59.369-08:00The incredibly tight controls on schedule II subst...The incredibly tight controls on schedule II substances make it difficult too... I can't refill until 29 days after I last filled a 30 rx. Often I have to wait until the 31st day to fill up, meaning I have to do it off my meds while I'm spaced out, irritable, tired, and feeling out of my own skin. <br /><br />Today was hell, I took my last dose sunday morning, got up early monday morning Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-84175524066445201922014-08-25T21:37:44.727-07:002014-08-25T21:37:44.727-07:00Sounds like an important insight, subquake. And, ...Sounds like an important insight, subquake. And, you know, you probably deserve a hell of a lot more out of life, too. <br /><br />For the both of you, I hope you will follow up.Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-65690826408060110082014-08-25T21:36:57.899-07:002014-08-25T21:36:57.899-07:00So, keep laughing! :-)
Better yet, if you thin...So, keep laughing! :-) <br /><br />Better yet, if you think you have ADHD, follow up on it. Life could be much better than you think!Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-82340696421412802422014-08-25T10:05:03.587-07:002014-08-25T10:05:03.587-07:00I have just been diagnosed and now I see several t...I have just been diagnosed and now I see several things MUCH more clearly. We even have code-names for my episodes: code "Tomato" for anger and frustration, code "Trees" for my impulsivity. I also just realized that my wife had a very valid complaint that I have a double standard on communication. I require her to choose her words very carefully so that I don't get subquakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03877956444133065121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-16574302253317482322014-08-22T09:38:28.506-07:002014-08-22T09:38:28.506-07:00I am 27 and I strongly (!) suspect I have undiagno...I am 27 and I strongly (!) suspect I have undiagnosed ADHD. Strongly! I actually laughed out loud at this article! Oh it's hilarious. The part where the spouse who is 'cleaning' asks his husband what he thinks, and yet the hallway is a mess... that is me all over....but seriously if you don't laugh about it, you'll cry instead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-42467412280643316592014-07-04T18:21:40.713-07:002014-07-04T18:21:40.713-07:00I can relate. The meds help control my impulsive b...I can relate. The meds help control my impulsive behavior. I like to find free stuff on Craigslist. I promised my wife (I'm in a lesbian marriage) I would not meet people by myself off Craigslist. Mind you, I'm a 5 foot small asian woman and there are plenty of stories of women raped or assaulted from Craigslist. Today I missed my meds. I found an ad nearby. I went while she napped. I'Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09922616451067989401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-72090870693499590302014-07-04T18:14:14.840-07:002014-07-04T18:14:14.840-07:00I can relate. The meds also help with my impulsive...I can relate. The meds also help with my impulsive behavior. Missing one day, I forget promises I've made to my wife. Mind you, I'm a 5 foot small asian woman married to another woman. I've promised I would not meet up with people by myself off Craigslist (as there are plenty of stories of women being raped or assaulted from Craigslist). I like to find free stuff off Craigslist. TodayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09922616451067989401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-77529609144260355742014-02-21T09:13:28.850-08:002014-02-21T09:13:28.850-08:00Sorry for late reply, Nichola. Somehow these comme...Sorry for late reply, Nichola. Somehow these comments slipped under my radar.<br /><br />Your boy came up with a brilliant metaphor!<br /><br />Good for you, for tempering your skepticism with evidence -- and giving your son the pros and cons. How great is that....Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-53464921238145043692014-02-21T09:11:46.909-08:002014-02-21T09:11:46.909-08:00So happy to hear that! I'm a big believer in ...So happy to hear that! I'm a big believer in Comic Relief!<br /><br />It's not always appropriate, I know, but it can really help to ratchet down the frustration, anger, and shame.<br /><br />We are all in this together.<br /><br />Gina Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-84136112620052472632014-02-21T09:07:18.212-08:002014-02-21T09:07:18.212-08:00Wow, Jeff. That sounds surreal. Imagine how many ...Wow, Jeff. That sounds surreal. Imagine how many people are going through their entire lives that way, not knowing they have ADHD.<br /><br />GinaGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-53158212661817927292014-02-21T07:11:28.039-08:002014-02-21T07:11:28.039-08:00I once stopped taking all meds for one month. Ther...I once stopped taking all meds for one month. There is now a "black hole" that represents that time period. I watched the days whiz right by. I accomplished nothing. I felt I was in a Terri Schiavo-like vegetative state. Jeffhttp://jeffsaddmind.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-66282592309543410382013-11-24T09:49:31.507-08:002013-11-24T09:49:31.507-08:00Oh I laughed so hard at the accuracy of this artic...Oh I laughed so hard at the accuracy of this article (coming from a home with 3 people with some form of ADHD), that my 4 year old son finally asked if something was tickling me. Thanks for making light of a difficult situation; I prefer to see our issues the humorous way. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-4372214733993631782013-10-01T11:47:20.304-07:002013-10-01T11:47:20.304-07:00I find this article very true. As a mother of a 9...I find this article very true. As a mother of a 9 year old boy who has been on medication for the past year i can certainly tell the difference if my son has not had his tablets. He gets very angry and frustrated, the violent temper returns as do a million and 101 other things. He has 2 to take per day he has a top up at 3pm and we can tell if it is getting close or if we have lost track of Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09234334806953053631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-70123093178092952842013-01-06T06:31:10.458-08:002013-01-06T06:31:10.458-08:00Hi Gina,
I think it takes time to figure out wher...Hi Gina,<br /><br />I think it takes time to figure out where you are with the situation...I look forward to the new book.<br /><br />Thanks!<br />SandyDSandyDz2002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-5400368585623338132013-01-04T21:02:56.810-08:002013-01-04T21:02:56.810-08:00Hi Sandy,
Yes, it is a very dense book. Not much ...Hi Sandy,<br /><br />Yes, it is a very dense book. Not much fluff!<br /><br />Many people have told me they kept re-reading at different stages, because they were ready to "hear" information at different points.<br /><br />I'm working on a workbook, to help guide folks through it.<br /><br />good luck!<br />gGina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-51094952945240897522013-01-04T16:48:16.472-08:002013-01-04T16:48:16.472-08:00Hi Gina,
I did finish reading your book but looks...Hi Gina,<br /><br />I did finish reading your book but looks like I better read it again and start apply as much as I can...Thanks for the feedback it was encouraging to know that I am the one who has to take away the gray areas or this will continue. <br /><br />Thanks for the support...<br />SandyD.<br /><br />SandyDz2002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-11849909598905503362013-01-01T22:06:41.907-08:002013-01-01T22:06:41.907-08:00Hi Sandy,
Yes, I was starting to feel your exhaus...Hi Sandy,<br /><br />Yes, I was starting to feel your exhaustion by the third paragraph.<br /><br />I'm not sure what I can do to help in a comment here. That's why I had to write an almost-400 page book. As you've found, reading isn't enough (you did finish reading, right? :-)). It must be put into practice.<br /><br />It sounds to me like he is making his choices, and you must Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-41471595641792288732013-01-01T20:06:47.946-08:002013-01-01T20:06:47.946-08:00Hi Johanne,
Your relationship sounds a lot like mi...Hi Johanne,<br />Your relationship sounds a lot like mine. I try to talk to my husband and yet I never seem to be able to understand what I have said or done to upset him. ADHD seems to control all conversations as I think I am on the right track and then after a few minutes he will change his opinion and turn the conversation in a different direction. I am constantly on guard and confused. He SandyDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-86762846112835218712013-01-01T19:57:08.325-08:002013-01-01T19:57:08.325-08:00Hi Gina,
I purchased your book a few years ago as...Hi Gina,<br /><br />I purchased your book a few years ago as I was struggling to understand why my husband was making me feel lost and loved all at the same time. We had separated after 8 yrs of marriage w/4 daughters from previous marriages. <br />We could not agree on many of the day to day activities that centered around family life. My husband always seemed to be fidgity and preoccupied with SandyDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-36528443962346596562012-08-17T09:48:47.105-07:002012-08-17T09:48:47.105-07:00Wow, I hope you didn't suffer lasting injuries...Wow, I hope you didn't suffer lasting injuries, Kaetje. Talk about a wake-up call.<br /><br />Good for you, for not giving yourself that "I'll take 'em later" margin of error.<br /><br />Sounds like it's an engrained habit now. Same with my husband. He takes his Rx very first thing in the morning. I've learned not to start chattering as we go into the kitchen for Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-19425668537817754482012-08-17T00:17:31.377-07:002012-08-17T00:17:31.377-07:00Not just on-the-job accidents.
One day I forgot my...Not just on-the-job accidents.<br />One day I forgot my meds and in the afternoon I got in a car crash. I was distracted by my car-radio while I should have been looking at the road.<br />My colleagues also notice immediately when I've forgotten my concerta. I have a daily alarm on my phone now to take it and I don't turn off the alarm till I've taken the meds, not even turning it offKaetjehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12283963957641935453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-55520206291308065302012-08-12T12:38:03.944-07:002012-08-12T12:38:03.944-07:00Oh no, during your finals week?
It is a lot to as...Oh no, during your finals week?<br /><br />It is a lot to ask of people with ADHD: to anticipate running out of medication and build in some failsafes to prevent it. But it is necessary.<br /><br />Some physicians understand this and will phone with reminders that it's time to re-fill.<br /><br />Personally, I take care of re-ordering my husband's Rx, because there are often hoops to Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6846377402285832776.post-80226013203044997072012-08-12T12:33:04.713-07:002012-08-12T12:33:04.713-07:00HI Johanne,
Any advice or "word of wisdom&qu...HI Johanne,<br /><br />Any advice or "word of wisdom" I might offer you is probably found in my book. I can say, "I'm sorry that you went through this," and I am. But that often doesn't go far enough to explain such a confusing and often heart-breaking experience. <br /><br />I hope that, as you continue to read through it, you will find some explanations that help Gina Perahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617490362195568500noreply@blogger.com